Bikinis and Modesty

I wanted to comment on a post that I ran across the other day on the topic of weather or not women should be able to wear a bikini on vacation with their husbands. I really think this depends on the situation. On my honeymoon I wore bikinis, but we were also on secluded beaches and in one hotel we even had our own little private pool. Maybe it wasn't the best thing to have a few people see me in a bikini, but I think it was a fun thing for my husband on our honeymoon. I feel that if it is a vacation that is just with your husband at a secluded pool or beach it should be okay. Also if my husband and I ever hot tub alone I wear a bikini. I also lay-out in a fenced yard in a bikini in summer. I think it is a hard line though. Because I want to look tan and sexy for my husband, but not for anyone else. And to those who may feel my husband would love me more if I would wear a tankini and show that I have standards, even when we are alone, are just naive. Why do you think women, even Mormon women buy lingerie? Even if the men in our lives view us as sweet spirits, they also want to view us as their sexy wives too.

On the other hand, on any family vacation or vacation with friends, or when I am boating or swimming with others I don't think it is okay to wear a bikini. I wouldn't want my husband to be looking at other girls in bikinis, or other husbands looking at me. And in some cases it can make you feel bad about yourself if the girl next to you is in a skimpy bikini. I think we as women underestimate how much being immodest influences the men around us.